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IS THE THEOLOGY OF THE BODY & WHY IS IT CHANGING SO MANY LIVES?
“It is an illusion to think we
can build a true culture of human life if we do not . . . accept
and experience sexuality and love and the whole of life according
to their true meaning and their close inter-connection.”
John Paul II, The
Gospel of Life (n. 97).
The sexual embrace is the foundation
stone of human life. The family + and, in turn, human society
itself + spring from this embrace. In short, as sex goes, so
go marriage and the family. As marriage and the family go,
so goes civilization.
Such logic doesn’t bode well for
our culture. It’s no exaggeration to say that the task of the
twentieth century was to rid itself of the Christian sexual
ethic. If we’re to build a “culture of life,” the task of the
twenty-first century must be to reclaim it.
But the often repressive approach
of previous generations of Christians (usually silence or, at
most, “don’t do it”) is largely responsible for the cultural
jettison of the Church’s teaching on sex. We need a “new language”
to break the silence and reverse the negativity. We need a
fresh theology that explains how the Christian sexual ethic
+ far from the prudish list of prohibitions it’s assumed to
be + corresponds perfectly with the deepest yearnings of our
hearts for love and union.
As many people are only now discovering,
Pope John Paul II devoted the first major teaching project of
his pontificate to developing just such a theology; he calls
it a “theology of the body.” This collection of 129 short talks
has already begun a “sexual counter-revolution” that’s changing
lives around the world. The “fire” is spreading and in due
time we can expect global repercussions.
Papal biographer George Weigel
said it best when he described the theology of the body as “a
kind of theological time bomb set to go off with dramatic
consequences ...perhaps in the twenty-first century” (Witness
to Hope, 343).
A Reply to Our Universal
Questions
By focusing on the beauty of God’s
plan for the union of the sexes, John Paul shifts the discussion
from legalism (“How far can I go before I break the law?”) to
liberty (“What’s the truth that sets me free to love?”). The
truth that sets us free is salvation in Jesus Christ. It doesn’t
matter what mistakes we’ve made or what sins we’ve committed.
The Pope’s theology of the body wags a finger at no one. It’s
a message of sexual salvation offered to one and all.
In short, through an in-depth reflection
on the Scriptures, John Paul seeks to answer two of the most
important, universal questions: (1) “What’s it mean to be human?”
and (2) “How do I live my life in a way that brings true happiness
and fulfillment?” The Pope’s teaching, therefore, isn’t just
about sex and marriage. Since our creation as male and female
is the “fundamental fact of human existence” (Feb 13, 1980),
the theology of the body affords “the rediscovery of the meaning
of the whole of existence, the meaning of life” (Oct 29, 80).
To answer the first question +
“What’s it mean to be human?” + the Pope follows Christ's invitation
to reflect on the three different “stages” of the human experience
of sex and the body: in our origin before sin (see Mt
19:3-8); in our history darkened by sin yet redeemed
in Christ (see Mt 5:27-28); and in our destiny when God
will raise our bodies in glory (see Mt 22:23-33).
In response to the second question
+ “How do I live my life?” + John Paul applies his distinctive
“Christian humanism” to the vocations of celibacy and marriage.
He then concludes by demonstrating how his study provides a
new, winning explanation of Church teaching on sexual morality.
We’ll look briefly at each of
these different sections of the Pope’s teaching. Of course,
in a short introduction such as this, we’re only scratching
the surface of the Pope’s profound insights (see resource
section to learn more). We’ll begin with his main idea.
Why is the Body a “Theology”?
According to John Paul II, God
created the body as a “sign” of his own divine mystery. This
is why he speaks of the body as a “theology,” a study of God.
We can’t see God. As
pure Spirit, he’s invisible. Yet Christianity is the religion
of God’s self-disclosure. In Christ, “God has revealed his
innermost secret: God himself is an eternal exchange of love,
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and he has destined us to share
in that exchange” (CCC, n. 221). Somehow the human body makes
this eternal mystery of love visible.
How? Specifically through the
beauty of sexual difference and our call to union. God designed
the union of the sexes as a “created version” of his own “eternal
exchange of love.” And right from the beginning, the union
of man and woman foreshadows our eternal destiny of union
with Christ. As St. Paul says, the “one flesh” union is “a
great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church”
(Eph 5:31-32).
The Bible uses spousal love more
than any other image to help us understand God’s eternal plan
for humanity. God’s wants to “marry” us (see Hos 2:19) +
to live with us in an “eternal exchange of love.” And he
wanted this great “marital plan” to be so plain to us, so
obvious to us that he impressed an image of it in our very
being by creating us male and female and calling us to communion
in “one flesh.”
Thus, in a dramatic development
of Catholic thought, John Paul concludes that we image God
not only as individuals, “but also through the communion ...which
man and woman form right from the beginning.” And, the Pope
adds, “On all of this, right from ‘the beginning,’ there
descended the blessing of fertility” (Nov 14, 1979). The
original vocation to be “fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28),
then, is nothing but a call live in the image in which we’re
made + to love as God loves.
Of course, this doesn’t mean
God is “sexual.” We use spousal love only as an analogy
to help us understand something of the divine mystery (see
CCC, n. 370). God’s “mystery remains transcendent in regard
to this analogy as in regard to any other analogy” (Sep. 29,
1982). At the same time, however, the Pope says that there
“is no other human reality which corresponds more, humanly
speaking, to that divine mystery” (Dec. 30, 1988).
The Original Experience
of the Body & Sex
We tend to think the “war” between
the sexes is normal. In his discussion with the Pharisees,
Jesus points out that “from the beginning it was not so” (Mt
19:8). Before sin, man and woman experienced their union
as a participation in God’s eternal love. This is the model
for us all, and although we’ve fallen from this, Christ gives
us real power to reclaim it.
The biblical creation stories
use symbolic language to help us understand deep truths about
ourselves. For example, the Pope observes that their original
unity flows from the human being’s experience of solitude.
At first the man was “alone” (see Gen 2:18). Among the animals
there was no “helper fit for him” (Gen 2:20). It’s on the
basis of this “solitude” + an experience common to male and
female + that we experience our longing for union.
The point is that human sexual
union differs radically from the mating of animals. If they
were the same, Adam would have found plenty of “helpers” among
the animals. But in naming the animals he realized he was
different; he alone was a person called to love with
his body in God’s image. Upon sight of the woman the man
immediately declares: “This at last is bone of my bones and
flesh of my flesh” (Gen 2:23). That’s to say, “Finally, a
person I can love.”
How did he know that she too
was a person called to love? Her naked body revealed the
mystery! For the pure of heart, nakedness reveals what John
Paul calls “the nuptial meaning of the body.” This is the
body’s “capacity of expressing love: that love precisely in
which the person becomes a gift and + by means of this gift
+ fulfills the very meaning of his being and existence” (Jan
16, 1980).
Yes, the Pope says if we live
according to the truth of our sexuality, we fulfill the very
meaning of life. What is it? Jesus reveals it when he says,
“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have
loved you” (Jn 15:12). How did Jesus love us? “This is
my body which is given for you” (Lk 22:19). God created
sexual desire as the power to love as he loves. And this
is how the first couple experienced it. Hence,
they “were both naked, and were not ashamed” (Gen 2:25).
There’s no shame in love; “perfect
love casts out fear” (1 Jn 4:18). Living in complete accord
with the nuptial meaning of their bodies, they saw and knew
each other “with all the peace of the interior gaze, which
createsB the fullness of the intimacy of persons” (Jan 2,
1980).
The Historical Experience
of the Body & Sex
Original sin caused the “death”
of divine love in the human heart. The entrance of shame
indicates the dawn of lust, of erotic desire void of God’s
love. Men and women of history now tend to seek “the sensation
of sexuality” apart from the true gift of themselves, apart
from authentic love.
We cover our bodies not because
they’re bad, but to protect their inherent goodness from the
degradation of lust. Since we know we’re made for love, we
feel instinctively “threatened” not only by overt lustful
behavior, but even by a “lustful look.”
Christ’s words are severe in
this regard. He insists that if we look lustfully at others,
we’ve already committed adultery in our hearts (see Mt 5:28).
John Paul poses the question: “Are we to fear the severity
of these words, or rather have confidence in their salvific
...power?” (Oct 8, 1980). These words have power to save
us because the man who utters them is “the Lamb of
God, who takes away the sin of the world” (Jn 1:29).
Christ didn’t die and rise from
the dead merely to give us coping mechanisms for sin. “Jesus
came to restore creation to the purity of its origins” (CCC,
n. 2336). As we open ourselves to the work of redemption,
Christ’s death and resurrection effectively “liberate our
liberty from the domination of lust” as John Paul expresses
it (March 1, 1984).
On this side of heaven, we’ll
always be able to recognize a battle in our hearts between
love and lust. Even so, John Paul insists that “the redemption
of the body” (see Ro 8:23) is already at work in men and women
of history. This means as we allow our lusts to be “crucified
with Christ” (see Gal 5:24) we can progressively rediscover
in what is erotic that original “nuptial meaning of the body”
and live it. This “liberation from lust” and the freedom
it affords is, in fact, “the condition of all life together
in truth” (Oct 8, 1980).
The Ultimate Experience
of the Body & Sex
What about our experience of
the body in the resurrection? Didn’t Christ say we’ll no
longer be given in marriage when we rise from the dead (see
Mt 22:30)? Yes, but this doesn’t mean our longing for union
will be done away with. It means it will be fulfilled.
As a sacrament, marriage is only on earthly sign of the heavenly
reality. We no longer need signs to point us to heaven,
when we’re in heaven. The “marriage of the Lamb” (Rev
19:7) + the union of love we all desire + will be eternally
consummated.
“For man, this consummation
will be the final realization of the unity of the human race,
which God willed from creation. ...Those who are united with
Christ will form the community of the redeemed, ‘the holy
city’ of God, ‘the Bride, the wife of the Lamb’” (CCC, n.
1045). This eternal reality is what the “one flesh” union
foreshadows from the beginning (see Eph 5:31-32).
Hence, in the resurrection of
the body we rediscover + in an eternal dimension + the same
nuptial meaning of the body in the meeting with the mystery
of the living God face to face (see Dec 9, 1981). “This will
be a completely new experience,” the Pope says + beyond anything
we can imagine. Yet “it will not be alienated in any way
from what man took part in from ‘the beginning,’ nor from
[what concerns] the procreative meaning of the body and of
sex” (Jan 13, 1982).
The Christian Vocations
By looking at “who we are” in
our origin, history, and destiny, we open the
door to a proper understanding of the Christian vocations
of celibacy and marriage. Both vocations are an authentic
“living out” of the most profound truth of who we are as male
and female.
When lived authentically, Christian
celibacy isn’t a rejection of sexuality and our call to union.
It actually points to their ultimate fulfillment. Those who
sacrifice marriage “for the sake of the kingdom” (Mt 19:12)
do so in order to devote all of their energies and desires
to the marriage that alone can satisfy + the marriage of Christ
and the Church. In a way, they’re “skipping” the sacrament
(the earthly sign) in anticipation of the ultimate reality.
By doing so, celibate men and women declare to the world that
the kingdom of God is here (see Mt 12:28).
In a different way, marriage
also anticipates heaven. “In the joys of their love [God
gives spouses] here on earth a foretaste of the wedding feast
of the Lamb” (CCC, n. 1642). Why, then, do so many couples
experience marriage as a “living hell”? In order for marriage
to bring the happiness it’s meant to, spouses must live it
as God intended “from the beginning.” This means they must
contend diligently with the effects of sin.
Marriage doesn’t justify lust.
As a sacrament, marriage is meant to symbolize the union of
Christ and the Church (see Eph 5:31-32). The body has a “language”
that’s meant to express God’s free, total, faithful,
and fruitful love. This is exactly what spouses commit
to at the altar. “Have you come here freely?” the priest
asks, “to give yourselves to each other without reservation?
Do you promise to be faithful until death? Do you promise
to receive children lovingly form God?” Bride and groom say
“yes.”
In turn, spouses are meant to
express this same “yes” with their bodies whenever
they become one flesh. “Indeed the very words ‘I take you
to be my wife + my husband,’” the Pope says, “can be fulfilled
only by means of conjugal intercourse” (Jan 5, 1983). Sexual
union is meant to be the renewal of wedding vows!
A New Context for Understanding
Sexual Morality
The Church’s sexual ethic begins
to make sense when viewed through this lens. It’s not a prudish
list of prohibitions. It’s a call to embrace our own “greatness,”
our own God-like dignity. It’s a call to live the love we’re
created for.
Since a prophet is one who proclaims
God’s love, John Paul II describes the body and sexual union
as “prophetic.” But, he adds, we must be careful to distinguish
between true and false prophets. If we can speak the truth
with our bodies, we can also speak lies. Ultimately all questions
of sexual morality come down to one simple question: Does
this truly image God’s free, total, faithful,
fruitful love or does it not?
In practical terms, how healthy
would a marriage be if spouses were regularly unfaithful to
their wedding vows? On the other hand, how healthy would
a marriage be if spouses regularly renewed their vows, expressing
an ever-increasing commitment to them? This is what’s at
stake in the Church’s teaching on sexual morality.
Masturbation, fornication, adultery,
intentionally sterilized sex, homosexual acts, etc.+ none
of these image God’s free, total, faithful,
and fruitful love. None of these behaviors express
and renew wedding vows. They aren’t marital. Does
this mean people who behave in such ways are “inherently evil?”
No. They’re just confused about how to satisfy their genuine
desires for love.
If I offered you a million dollar
bill and a counterfeit million dollar bill, which would you
prefer? Dumb question, I know. But what if you were raised
in a culture that incessantly bombarded you with propaganda
convincing you that counterfeit was the real thing and the
real thing was a counterfeit? Might you be a little confused?
Authentic Sexual Liberation
Why all the propaganda? If there’s
an enemy that wants to keep us from heaven, and if the body
and sex is meant to point us there, what do you think he’s going
to attack? Sin’s tactic is to “twist” and “disorient” our desire
for the eternal embrace. That’s all it can do. When we understand
this, we realize that the sexual confusion so prevalent in our
world and in our own hearts is nothing but the human desire
for heaven gone berserk.
But the tide is changing. People
can only put up with the counterfeits for so long. Not only
do they fail to satisfy, they wound us terribly. Sadly, the
truth of the Church’s teaching on sex is confirmed in the wounds
of those who haven’t lived it. Our longings for love, intimacy,
and freedom are good. But the sexual revolution sold us a bill
of goods. We haven’t been “liberated.” We’ve been duped, betrayed,
and left wanting.
This is why the world is a mission
field ready to soak up John Paul II’s theology of the body.
And this is why it’s already changing so many lives around the
world. The Pope’s teaching helps us distinguish between the
real million dollar bill and the counterfeit. It helps us “untwist”
our disordered desires and orients us towards the love that
truly satisfies.
As this happens, we experience
the Church’s teaching not as a burden imposed from “without,”
but as a message of salvation welling up from “within.” We
experience the truth that sets us free. In other words, we
experience what the sexual revolution promised but couldn’t
deliver + authentic sexual liberation.
Prayer for Purity of Heart
Lord, help me to accept and receive
my sexuality as a gift from you. Grant me the grace to resist
the many lies that distort this divine gift and help me to live
my sexuality according to the truth of self-giving love. Grant
me purity of heart so that I might see the image of your glory
in the beauty of others, and one day see you face to face.
Amen.
Prayer for the Redemption of
Sexual Desire
Lord, I praise you and thank you
for the gift of my sexual desires. By the power of your death
and resurrection, untwist in me what sin has twisted so that
I might know and experience sexual desire as you created it
to be + as the desire to love freely, totally, faithfully,
and fruitfully. Amen.
Prayer in a Moment of Temptation
to Lust
Lord, thank you for the beauty of
this person whom you made to be loved + never to be treated
as a thing for my gratification. I renounce any tendency within
me to use this person for my own pleasure, and I ask you to
set my desires aright. Amen.
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